Whatever comes, let it come. What stays, let it stay. What goes, let it go.
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| — | Papaji (via wolf-cub) |
I find that, when writing bios, it’s really helpful to look at a list or a chart like the one above. Picking two or three traits from each chart and building a character based around them will give you a really interesting bio, because they will serve as a reminder that characters need depth and dimension.
Independent and clever.
VS.
Independent, clever, pretentious, and stubborn.
The first combination doesn’t come with any flaws, whereas the second will provide a more dynamic character.
At every dinner I’m invited to, I’m in a constant struggle between not looking like a starving child and getting another plate of dessert.
Whatever it is that has been taken away from you, God’s gonna restore it, beloved. He’s gonna restore it to a hundredfold— more than what you lost.
How To Be A Better Listener
Communication is the backbone of a good relationship, and one of the main qualities of a good communicator is being a good listener. Follow these tips to ensure that you become a great listener in all of your relationships:
· Take yourself out of the equation. This is not the time to talk, especially about yourself. You’re there to listen to what they have to say and hear them talk about themselves. So resist the temptation to relate everything back to yourself or talk about how you went through the exact same thing. It’s not about you.
Use effective communication Skill: Kailangan mo buhayin palagi kung pano kayo mag usap o mag kita. Kahit minsan malayo kayo sa isa’t isa dapat hindi padin nawawala yung komunikasyon niyo. Gamitin niyo yung pinaka epektib na isang bagay na hindi kayo magsasawang gamitin o hindi kayo mahihirapan sa pag uusap. Pwede naman kayong mag Skype, Viber o mag ka text sa cellphone. Madaming paraan kapag gustong mag usap.
Discuss your feelings openly: Kung nasasaktan ka, sabihin mo sa kanya. Kung may problema ka, sabihin mo sa kanya. Kailangan niya malaman yung nararamdaman mo palagi kung masaya kaba o kung malungkot. Wag mong itago yung nararamdaman mo sa kanya dahil partners kayo eh at dapat alam niya yung nangyayari sayo. Kailangan niyang malaman dahil hindi naman palagi kayang maramdaman. Be open sa kanya wag ka mahiya.
Be honest with one another: Kung may itatanong siya direct to the point dapat agad yung sagot mo. Wag kana mag dalawang isip na sabihin yung totoo dahil dapat malaman niya talaga yung totoo. Mas nakakapag bigay tiwala yung pagsasabi ng totoo dahil naniniwala siya na hindi mo kayang mag sinungaling sa kanya.
Know what you want: Kailangan niyo parehong malaman kung ano yung gusto niyo. Kung ano ba gusto niyong maging takbo ng relasyon niyo o kung ano yung maging takbo ng pagsasama niyong dalawa.
